The Symphony of Sex

 

If music is the transmission of refined feeling from the musician through a specific instrument to produce sounds and melodies that affect and delight listeners, then the sexual act is exactly the same. Just as music is the art of melodies, the marital relationship between a husband and wife is an art of pleasure.

If we consider both husband and wife as both the musicians and the listeners, this is accurate, because each of them can, through their own “instrument,” play a beautiful tune or piece that the other can feel, receiving it as a performance in harmony with the shared emotional connection between them. The more enjoyable the “playing” from one partner, the more beautifully the other responds, and the symphony rises with sighs — representing the level of satisfaction achieved by the skill of both “musicians.”

The symphony reaches completion when they both achieve pleasure through understanding and mastering what each partner enjoys, and the effect of each “performance” brings out the most beautiful that each has to offer.

To answer this, we should note that a person passes from a sensory state to an emotional — or psychological — state. Thus, sex is a delicate feeling that expresses an ecstasy in which a person moves beyond the sensory state and becomes immersed in a world of the spirit.

Sex is an energy that should not be misused or treated in a crude, automatic manner. It is a conscious, purposeful energy, created by a noble idea, and fulfilled by will. Marriage is therefore considered a profound secret, in which the tenderness and subtlety of life appear.

The truth is that a person who misuses their sexual powers harms themselves, existence, the other person, and the higher truth. Humanity — that noble being — would never have come into earthly existence except through civilized, lawful, and regulated sex.

With this clarification, I believe Freud was mistaken, as he understood sex only from a material perspective. His analysis is valid only from a purely biological standpoint; it collapses when we view the human as both a spiritual and material being. Freud, whether knowingly or not, encouraged the cultivation of instinct and the suppression of reason. His view of the relationship between son and mother (Oedipus complex) and daughter and father (Electra complex) is fundamentally flawed — because he ignored the relationship that exists between a human being and their love for themselves, as represented in both man and woman alike.

Dr. Abdelaty Elmannaee

Consultant in Andrology and Sexual Dysfunction